Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Feel Good Friendships

As we all know, relationships can be hard work.  While I totally believe in nurturing romantic relationships so they can be as thriving as possible, are friendships supposed to be that way too?  Do friendships also need "hard work" just as marriages do?  Are friendships rated by quality or quantity?  I'd like to vote for quality.

I am very lucky when it comes to friends.  I have had the same best friend since first grade and she has become more like a sister to me in multiple decades of friendship.  In middle school I met another "soul sister" who has also continues to be a huge part of my life.  I was blessed again by taking some great loves from high school and a few from college. That group makes up my "die hard besties" if you will.


We may not talk as much as I'd like, but each time we pick up the phone or are reunited, it is like no time has passed.  We aren't annoyed at each other for not calling more, or not visiting each month, we are just so excited to be in the moment that nothing else matters. I know if I called any of them at 2 in the morning sobbing my eyes out or stuck somewhere, they would drop everything and save me.  I know if I needed something, they would do anything to provide it for me... just as I would for them. 

It wasn't until college, that I start "breaking up" with friends.  The whole experience was so foreign to me I didn't even know what to do with myself.  What was happening? Why do I feel so sick about this?  So... are we breaking up?  Having never lost my closest friends growing up, I never knew just how awful it was.  It made me realize maybe I was holding on to friendships for the wrong reasons.  Only in my adulthood did I start to see that if a friendship didn't make me feel good or had positive outcomes, then maybe it was no longer meant to be.
Throughout life we will always be making new friends and as we do, we choose how much we want to include these new people.  As time passes you get to decide if they are going to be one of your "quantity friends" who you grab dinner with once in a while or  a "quality friend", one in which you share your personal life, thoughts and secrets with.  Any relationship that makes you feel good is one worth having.  One of my wise "lifers" once told me, "You gravitate towards people that make you feel good about yourself and support you, there is nothing wrong with that".  Well, Ash, you are right.  There is nothing wrong with that

Stive to thrive, 
Em

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4 comments:

  1. Couldn't have said it better myself. LOVE this post.

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    1. Thank you! A great friend inspired me to write this, so the LOVE should all be sent to her!

      Strive to thrive,
      Em

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  2. Love this! My bff is also Ash. Cheers to strong, supportive, funny friends.

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    1. Laura,

      We are so glad you liked our post, thank you SO much for stopping by! Here, here and double cheers to strong, supportive, funny friends!

      Strive to thrive,
      Em

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