Putting Family First - Make the Time
Life is busy, there is no doubt about that. But at some point we all have to press pause and make more of an effort to slow the clock. I know for me, I often stop, take a breath and remind myself to make more of an effort to spend "quality" time with my family. That means no phone, no TV, no iPad, no nothing but good old fashioned interactions...(gasp!). I won't lie, this is often pretty tricky since I seem to be in a serious relationship with my stupid iPhone.
What can we do to make this happen? My suggestion, start with dinners. I find myself drawn to the living room to eat dinner in front of the TV once the boys go down for the night because I am desperate to catch up on my shows. But, then it dawns on me, those shows will always be there, but quality time with my TH won't be. If I don't take time to nurture my marriage now, then one day (far far from now) it may be too late. I refuse to let that happen. I am going to make the choice, to unplug and really spend time with those I love the most, starting with my TH. That means, getting dinner all ready, having him set the table, maybe a hug while passing in the kitchen, sitting down together and really talking while we eat....there must be something we can talk about right? YES THERE IS!
My dinner table is now the only place to be each night. Technology is forbidden, unless it is the music playing in the background. The people I follow in Instagram are not welcome, nor the people I am texting...just me and my TH. Once the babies are big enough to join us (right now they are going to bed around 6pm) then that will be our time to be together as a family and reconnect after a busy day. I plan to be hard core about this as my children get older. Once homework is done and we have had our evening play time, it is family time. Dinner, books, baths and being together, heck maybe even a game. No ifs, ands or buts about it!
Family is the most important thing there is and instead of getting caught up in "life", we need to get more caught up in being together. I have always wanted to start a monthly game night with other families and I think the time to start is now! What a great way to get together, be present and nurture relationships. Stay tuned for how I throw together that party in a pinch!
What are some ways you put/attempt to put family first?