Friday, May 3, 2013

Babymoon - Is That a Real Thing?

It's no secret that I just love to travel. TH and I were fortunate enough to spend 5 whole weeks roaming through Europe for our honeymoon in 2011, but since then we haven't had a real vacation (I'm spoiled in that I'm used to at least one trip a year). We finally bit the bullet and had planned to go back to one of my favorite places in the world, Maui, this August - but of course little BK had other plans and wanted to make an appearance instead! I also have been through some employment changes recently, which makes taking a vacation very difficult as I didn't want to jeopardize my new job - not to mention I'll be taking maternity leave come August. I had given up hope of a real tropical vacation, but TH and I decided it was still important to have a "babymoon".

What is a babymoon, you ask? Well, much like a honeymoon is a celebration of your new life together as a married couple, a babymoon is basically the goodbye party to any alone time you two will have for the next 18 or so years. It's also a great way to reconnect before baby comes, and spend some time really focusing on each other since that's alllll about to change. It may sound like some silly thing we made up, but I assure you we didn't, and on top of that I believe it's something very important for a pregnant couple to participate in.

The internet told me not to "dive" too deep as the pressure can cause issues, but this mama looks like a pro. 
So back to our babymoon. We went ahead and booked a weekend trip at the Bacara Resort in Santa Barbara. This is a gorgeous and luxurious resort, that came highly recommended from a couple of friends of ours, so I didn't mind that we'd only be spending 2 nights there. The important part was getting what we needed - special, romantic time alone (and maybe a prenatal massage for me).

Then, by some miracle, all of the stars aligned to make our Maui babymoon a reality after all! As a bonus/thank you/baby gift to my TH, his boss offered to not only let us stay in his Maui condo but pay for our flights and car rental as well! That still didn't solve the problem of my job, so I very cautiously felt out my boss to see if it would be an option, and to my surprise he was only too happy to let me go. After LOTS of reassurance that this wouldn't be a problem, considering my maternity leave coming up, he gave the 100% OK and we booked that trip instead (after checking with my doctor of course).

We leave tomorrow, and I am so excited. I can't do all the things I had planned for our next Maui trip (swimming with dolphins, a dream 30 years in the making, was at the top of that list) due to my 'condition' but I'm still thrilled with everything we have planned. We like to alternate days of relaxation and activities, so interspersed with lazy beach days we are planning to go on scuba (for TH)/boat trips, hikes, a lavender farm tour, and do some shopping. It's important to take it easy on a vacation while you are pregnant, but if you are having an uncomplicated pregnancy and you've talked to your doctor about limitations, there is no reason to miss out on fun stuff! I love being outdoors and going hiking, especially in Hawaii, so there was no way I was missing out on that. I also LOVE being in the ocean, and while it's too dangerous to put myself right in front of a giant wild mammal, I wasn't going to let anyone stop me from floating around with my snorkel in those crystal clear blue waters. It's fine to still do what you love, just make sure to take precautions and be aware of your surroundings.

Love this gorgeous Hawaiian mama - look at that cute bump!
If you are considering a babymoon, and it's something that makes sense for you financially, please do it. It doesn't have to be a week in Hawaii - we were happy to spend just 2 nights in any hotel, it didn't even have to be somewhere fancy. The way you choose to spend the time is what makes it a babymoon and that is ALL that matters! I whole heartedly disagree with this post that says they are a waste of time & money... a vacation of ANY kind, if well thought out and financially feasible, is always a good idea in my opinion. I also don't believe I should be forced to wait to take a vacation if I don't want or need to. But I digress...

Would you ever go on a Babymoon, or have you? I'd love to hear where you went or what you did!

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1 comment:

  1. We went on a babymoon before our first was born. We didn't go far, just to Savannah, GA, from our home in Charleston, SC. But it really was perfect. We piggy backed the trip with a music festival, so we got to see some really amazing bands, sleep late, and enjoy our time. It was wonderful. It's so great having time like that to reconnect. Have an amazing trip!!


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