Thursday, November 8, 2012

Workin' on Love


Whoever said that being in a relationship is easy is a lunatic. It isn’t just by default easy, you have to WORK to make it easy. You think spending almost every waking moment with one person is going to be a cake walk? Ha! Let’s see if all you newly in love people are still singing that same tune five, ten years down the road. But, that's just it, what great couples are made of; hard work.

I never thought I would find my one true love, I figured I would continue to be friends the girls who were always in love. Thank goodness all that wishing, hoping, dreaming and planning paid off, and in just 18 short years!!! My one true love walked into my life (well staggered, it was a college party after all), and the rest is history. While it was a  rocky, loud and trying history, it is ours. We put years of sweat and tears into our relationship and just like all hard work, it paid off. If it's not hard, is it really worth doing?

Each day I make a choice to work on my marriage. I strive to be a supportive and patient wife. A wife who is compassionate and kind. One who consciously makes an effort to treat her partner as she would want to be treated. In all honesty, I don’t always get back what I put out, but how can I preach about leading by example and then not? I am not much into that hypocritical mess, so I do my best. Each minute of each day, I try to slow down my crazy lady and be the best woman I can be.

So, take the challenge, work on your love life. Whether single or attached, you can always work on love. For you single girls, you have it made. Your life is YOURS! You can travel, keep your own schedule, eat cereal standing by the sink for dinner and not have someone comment your unshaven legs. Take this time to work on loving yourself. You are a strong, beautiful, smart and independent woman. OWN IT! I truly believe, to love yourself is to open yourself to the ability to love others. So do it.

You ball –n-chainers, remember who you are, first and foremost. Remind yourself of all the amazing reasons your partner is with you. OWN THEM. The person you love is clearly with you for a reason, so know that and trust it. I think we all (ok, maybe just me) question our relationships sometimes, but why? As long as we keep workin’ on love, we will only get better stronger and closer with the person we love most.  The partner who loves you for your faults but inspires you to be better is the best kind of partner to have.  Consider yourself lucky if you've found your Thriving Love!

Keep working and as always,


10 comments:

  1. Love your post! Marriage is like that...there are good times, bad times, broke times, fun times but they are all what make it stronger and yes, allow it to thrive! I have been married a long time and it's true :)

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    1. Raquel, thank you so much for sharing. Being married is hands down one of the best experiences of life, but as you know it is not always the most fun. It always saddens me to hear of couples who get divorced because only one person is in it to win it. But, I guess that is why both partners involved have to really be in tune with their relationship and be able to identify when things are going...well, a bit "off". I know for me, I can tell exactly when something is off with my man, I can read that guy like my Us magazines!

      Strive to thrive,
      Em

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  2. Couldn't have said it better myself. Healthy relationships don't come out of thin air. Who knew that being in love took so much work? Thanks for the inspiration and reminder to continue to work at it, ALWAYS.

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    1. Thank you Ashley! The best things in life are always what you work hardest for, that is what makes them great. Think about it, can you really name something that was easy and fulfilling? I mean, where's is the fun in that?

      Strive to thrive,
      Em

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  3. It is work, and it's a two way street. But one of the most important things I've learned (especially after having 2 kids) is that the small acts--the hand holding and eye contact, the simple smile or thank you--matter BIG. Bigger than big really because quite often I don't have a lot of time for my husband. There's always a diaper to change or milk to clean up or some one to take to dance class or something. So I have to make those small moments speak volumes.

    But good for you for recognizing all the necessary work right now.

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    1. Anna, I so appreciate your wisdom and will make sure to incorporate more little moments into my daily love life.

      Thank you!

      Strive to thrive,
      Em

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  4. You are so right! It is def a lot of work to put into relationships. Great post! Come by and check out my blog, if you like it I would love it if you followed me!

    xo Andrea
    http://uskar-vor-inspire.blogspot.ca/

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    1. Andrea,

      Thank you so much for your comment! It is always refreshing to know that others share the understanding that relationships are in fact work!

      Strive to thrive,
      Em

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  5. I love this post. Sometimes it's hard to hear that love takes work (especially after watching one of those darn chick flicks), but it really is worth it in the end.

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    1. Marie, I am so glad you enjoyed the post! Darn those chick flicks that make everything look so easy..yeah right! REAL LOVE takes work, and it is not easy at all...but that hard work is what makes it oh so worth it in the end. Thank you for commenting!

      Strive to thrive,
      Em

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