Friday, November 30, 2012

On the Eve of Turning 30

Oh look, nothing has changed. Passed out in a fancy dress and a tiara. I expect the same results on Saturday.
It's 7am. I've just waited as long as possible to crawl out of my warm cozy bed and drag my limp body into the bathroom. I wet a washcloth with warm water and gently rub my face, slowly perking up with each pass. When I finally focus on the person in front of me, I notice not one, not two, but THREE pimples that have sprouted overnight. My eyes widen as a thrust my face closer to the mirror to inspect these atrocities. Disgusting! A short while later I undress to get in the shower, only to find some lovely thick black hairs that have sprouted underneath my belly button. You may be thinking, "well this just sounds like a standard morning routine for a teenager", except that it happened to me mere days before turning 30. What is this nonsense? I want to know why my body thinks it's going through puberty again? I'm supposed to be getting rid all these adolescent traits, not getting more of it. I never had acne as a teen (Mama you told me good skin ran in our family!) and my hair is BLONDE, people. Not that I don't have many other physical faults, but these just popped up out of nowhere... on the other hand they could be right on time for my body's decline into old age.
She taught me well (don't worry, it's OJ). I was my Mama's 30th birthday present!

All joking and horrific post-pubescent changes aside, I am actually really excited to turn 30. In a way it "sounds old", but I am pretty done with my 20's. Sure sure, no decade is a piece of cake, and I don't really remember turning 20 (one word: college), but my 20's were my first foray into adulthood and they were HARD. And it's not just me, practically every one of my close friends has expressed a similar dissatisfaction with the terrible twenties. Look at all these TV shows about it: Girls, New Girl, 2 Broke Girls (I guess boys don't struggle? Bastards). Plus, many women in my mother's generation have told me that their 30's were their favorite decade.

Sorority girl perk: glitter banners for every birthday! (From my 21st.)
The first part started out great: I had just transferred to Chico State where I not only met my husband and all my best friends, but I was just coming into my own as a mature woman. In the middle, I graduated and moved 300 miles away from my family to be near my now husband, starting a real job and living with a stranger (TH and I moved in together a year after graduation). This proved to be way harder than I thought, and those middle years tested me and my relationship with TH more than any others have. I battled depression and unemployment, all the while attempting that great adult past-time of "finding oneself". As my twenties went on, I became more confident and stable, but life didn't stop throwing nasty little surprises at me. Not that life ever does stop, but days before turning 30 I FINALLY feel strong enough to handle them all with poise and grace. It feels like a lot of us spend our twenties worrying about everything and it's just exhausting.

You can't tell because apparently a small tornado hit my bed, but TH (then just TB - Thriving Boyfriend) had covered my room in pink balloons and chocolates for my 23rd bday.
Anyway, my point here is not to complain about the last decade - I am a firm believer in respecting the paths that lead us where we are today - but to tell you why I'm excited for the next one. Most people fear turning 30, but I'm going to embrace it! Let's make a "30 Reasons I'm Stoked To Turn 30" list just to be extra cute.
  1. Babies. This Thriving Wife can't wait to be a Thriving Mama, and it's going to happen at some point this decade (hopefully) which is so exciting.
  2. Motherhood. This may seem related to #1, but to me they are separate. I'm excited to have a baby in my life, but I'm also excited for my identity to shift once I become a mom. 
  3. Respect. Now all the 20-somethings (what an awful and broad term) will respect me because I'm "older" and "wiser". Hahahaha... sorry couldn't help myself. But it might be true. I'll let you know. Hopefully older people will see me in a different light as well, more as a 'peer'.
  4. Money. Ok well not so much my money as our money, but it's nice to not live paycheck to paycheck anymore. However, call me in 6 months and I'll be singing a different tune as we are attempting to buy some stuff, which brings me to....
  5. House. TH and I are in the midst of house hunting hell/heaven (depending on the day), but I cannot WAIT to own my first home. I also cannot wait for Em to come decorate it!
  6. Mom Car. So, this is arbitrary to my age but it's happening real soon. I've had Ford Mustangs since I was 18 and it's going to be really embarrassing being 30 with one. Car shopping & house shopping & Christmas shopping = too much shopping for TH.
  7. 30. I really love being even numbered ages. Don't judge me - despite my polished appearance I'm a complete nerd through and through. 
  8. Grownup Parties. I love me an adult beverage as much as the next girl, but my body just can't handle it anymore. Something else I can thank my twenties (let's be honest, and part of my teens) for. So, I'm really excited to be 'boring' for celebrations and not get guilted into anything. Hey guys, I'm old ok?
  9. My Body. Ok this may seem like a contradiction to what I wrote above, but as I get older I continue to love my body more and more. Sure I need to be hitting the gym harder, and eating more organic food (sshh don't tell Em), but there is a lot I will never be able to change about my body and that's just fine. I'm learning my body is actually capable of some really amazing things!
  10. Marriage. Even though I technically got married at 28, I'm pretty excited to be married to my best friend so we can be old coots together. 
  11. Job Status. I'm not in a career I want to be in right now, and am still trying to find my 'direction' as far as that goes, but I'm ok with it. I've learned to just trust my instincts which allows me to make good decisions. My title isn't important, as long as I'm contributing to our family goals and am content in the meantime. 
  12. Education. I've already earned my Bachelors degree, which was something I "had" to do. But now I have the time/luxury of going to school because I want to, and to only take classes that specifically interest me. For instance, I am DYING to take History of Typography next Fall! (remember that nerd thing? Yea...)
  13. Confidence. I've touched on this already, but as I near my thirties I'm feeling more confident about the person I am and the person I want to continue to be. In addition, I have the confidence to do what is necessary to achieve those goals, with less fear and hesitation. If not now, when?
  14. Selfishness. Teens and twenty-somethings are notoriously selfish, so that's not what I mean. In my thirties I plan on being selfish in only the most healthy and constructive ways - not stretching myself too thin to please others, or backing down when there is something I am passionate about. I've come to realize it's ok to really assert what I want or believe in. 
  15. Time. I've become much more adept at choosing how and what I want to do with my time without feeling bad about it. Some days I'll plan every minute of the waking hours, sometimes not seeing my husband until I crawl into bed. Other days I will purposefully NOT make plans, and just see where the day takes me. There is a surprising amount of freedom in this either way.
  16. Whittling My Circle. As a 30 year old woman, I no longer feel it necessary to keep poisonous people in my life. In my younger days, especially in college, all I wanted was to be surrounded by tons of friends and an endless cycle of social activities, even if some of those people didn't have my best interests at heart. Now that I've gotten that out of my system, I'm much happier spending quiet (and not so quiet) evenings with the select few people I cherish most in my life, who are truly invested in my happiness and wellbeing. 
  17. Action. It feels like I've been planning for this point in my life FOREVER. And now it's here! I can finally take all those plans and make them a reality. 
  18. Saving. It's super weird to think about retirement at 30, but really we should have all been planning for it in our twenties. Since that didn't really happen, it's happening now, but the exciting part is it's possible to save for. There is no telling what the future holds, but thinking about retiring with my TH and TG (Thriving Grandchildren) is such a sweet thought.
  19. Reflection. I am suuuuper nostalgic, so the older I get the more I have to think back on. This also motivates me to keep making amazing memories, just so I can savor in them later on! It's kind of like delayed gratification, in a twisted way.
  20. Regret. We all have regrets, but the ones from my younger days seem so much more insignificant now. 
  21. Being Uncool. I am exhausted from trying to be cool. It is exhausting mostly because I'm pretty terrible at it. So, at 30, I give up. I'm going to let my freak flag fly and if people think I'm "weird" and "uncool" then that's fine with me. I'll still be nice to you.
  22. The Unknown. I like to plan things out, but I like surprises too. My 30th birthday feels like I've reached some new precipice, the starting point to a brand new journey. Thinking about what unexpected things may occur in my life is terribly exciting, and I just can't wait to find out.
  23. New Friends. My college besties are my sisters, and I will never love them any less. However I'm looking forward to the new "grown up" friends I'm bound to make in the coming years. 
  24. Weddings. I am a bit older than my group of friends, so I haven't been to that many weddings. But I absolutely LOVE them, and can't wait to start going to more. 
  25. Health. Despite my best efforts, I'm in pretty good health. I am thankful for this, and promise to try better in my thirties. 
  26. Furniture. I am itching to dump all of my ikea furniture that is lingering from college. I can't wait to finally get some REAL furniture in my house, and have it be appreciated (mostly by me and Em). 
  27. Me Time. I'm basically an only child (I have 2 half sisters) so I have always enjoyed alone time. However, I know that once children enter the picture that will disappear, so I'm determined to not only savor the last moments I have to do that, but also to make sure I still get "me time" as years go on. Being older means I recognize just how important this is.
  28. Travel. TH and I loooooove to travel, as evidenced by our 5 week honeymoon in Europe. In my thirties I'm looking forward to doing more exploration with him, as well as with some of our friends. 
  29. Compassion. More and more I find myself being more compassionate towards others. It may just be a really normal part of maturing, but it's refreshing and a HUGE relief. There is hope for me yet!
  30. December 1st, 2012. Perhaps the best, or maybe just most immediate, reason I'm excited to turn 30 is the fantastic half-surprise party my TH and TW Em are throwing me. We are having a Roaring 20's/Great Gatsby themed evening, in which I know very few details but I am confident it will be everything I imagine and more. What I DO know is that I will be wearing the most fantastic champagne gold sequin floor length gown, complete with delicious art deco jewelry and my grandmother-in-law's luxurious fur stole. I am getting my hair and makeup done, so I don't have to worry about a thing except having the second most fabulous night of my life (first would be my wedding of course). Stay tuned for the recap of that epic event!!!
Anyone else turning 30? or 40 even? I would love to hear your thoughts and feelings on the subject!!

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13 comments:

  1. The first picture is really cute! :*

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    1. Aww thank you! I was a princess at an early age.

      Strive to Thrive,
      Nic

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  2. OMG. I absolutely LOVED reading your post during my lunchtime on this cold rainy day. All of your reasons for looking forward to turning 30 are exactly why every woman should be embracing this milestone year. Thank you for putting all of the thoughts tons of women have into eloquent words.

    Happy Early Birthday Beautiful Lady!

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    1. Thanks Ash! I agree, lets all age gracefully and embrace these inevitable changes - whether it's 30 or beyond!

      Strive to Thrive,
      Nic

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  3. Happy Birthday, Nic! I hope your 30s are full of excitement, love, and happiness. :)

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    1. Thank you so much Anna, you are so sweet!! I hope so too, and I am going to make every effort to fill this decade with all of that.

      Strive to Thrive,
      Nic

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  4. I'm turning 30 in March and haven't decided how I really feel about it, but this post was really encouraging! It's weird because as twenty-something/Gen-Yers it feels like people have talked a lot about us the past 10 years and now we're moving into a whole new world of being "real" adults :) Great post and thanks for some new ways to look at the big 3-0.

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    1. Oh that makes me so happy to hear! Isn't that funny, it's like we have two stages of entering adulthood (perhaps because of the economy and that whole failure to launch thing that's been happening with our generation). Well I really hope you decide to embrace 30 with open arms and a tight squeeze! It really is a very exciting time.

      Strive to Thrive,
      Nic

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  5. It's great that you're actually excited to turn 30! I hope I'll feel that way as well... most women are all crying about it!

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    1. I hope you get excited about turning 30 as well, instead of crying about it! Remember you get to choose how you feel about it :)

      Strive to Thrive,
      Nic

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  6. I haven't even reached my 20's yet and I'm not exactly in the 13 going on 30 mind set (I'm 17), but I hope I don't fear it. You're reasons are so great.

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    1. Thank you! No need to fear it, although you have quite a bit of time!

      Strive to Thrive,
      Nic

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  7. Happy birthday! :D

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